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FAILED RELATIONSHIPS



Take a breather, relax and let go……. It’s all over Facebook and it’s all over social media and the psychologists say it’s the best way to cope with heartbreak.  Why is it? Because with relaxation comes peace. Peace dwells in God. You’re angry, its normal accept it. You’ve heard it, this phrase all over your life. “It’s part of life, another way to grow up”. Who knew that with growth come’s pain? Who knew? Daniel knew in the lion’s den, he had faith, his faith was his growth and after this very moment at that second he put all his faith in God. So why can’t we? Simply put… we doubt God. He still loves us even with every doubt; he knows that people we love will fail us. They will fail every time. Every time we think that a person will change, they don’t. (Lol)  We are so much of sensitive creatures that we sit and pray to God to help us fix the people who love so much to suit us.


Your like “but God I know he may or she may not be for me but lord can you please help them see you!”  “And teach them to love God!”…… (Yes this was me!!!)


I’m guilty. I expected God to fix relationships that were broken from the start. I wanted God to dwell in a relationship that he wasn’t even in. Who am I? Telling God what he should do, shame on me! Was I wrong for praying for this person? NO, I was wrong for putting all my faith in a senseless relationship. A relationship that was dead, worthless.  (A relationship that didn’t have an ounce of holiness in it) It’s failed. God wants us to know that failed relationships are okay, it’s the beauty of the failure, within this failure we will always result back to Jesus. We are so undeserving of his love but he loves us beyond compassion. It’s really too unexplainable for words. He loves us beyond creation. He really is the source for spirit and truth. God showed me that my faith was important; I should never have to not put him in any of my relationships. He should be included in everything that I do. He deserves all the Glory. He gave me forgiveness.


A failed relationship could mean forgiveness. Faithful forgiveness, God knows as earthly vessel’s this hard for us humans to do. It’s possible that we will hate before we love. This is he sin within us. Forgiveness is the key to life it is the one source for everything spiritual. Jesus spoke in Mark 11:26 “But if ye do not forgive neither will your father who is in heaven forgive your trespasses”. Jesus is saying to us, we must forgive ourselves and everyone and everything, so that he can forgive us. He will hold us accountable for not forgiving. God has a sea of forgiveness. God’s love for us is deeper than the seas.


A relationship is a start to a brighter future, a future of hope, a future of trust and a secure faithful future of love. A failed relationship is good. Compare your failed relationship to God. Is your relationship with God measureable to your failed relationship? Can this person treat you and love you like God? Nope! Only Gods love is guaranteed. He is the passion and burning desire to serve him and love him. God is the corrector and finisher of my faith and he will never fail…..
Hope this post encourages you to love again and again.

Walk in love,

                                    Malika Qadir 

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  1. UnknownDecember 9, 2016 at 10:36 AM

    This is a very good read. What stood out to me the most is where you talk about the sea of forgiveness that God throws our sins into. For the believer that's awesome news and an encouragement that we can put our hopes in Christ and that he won't give up on us. Like you said, we can't love perfectly like Christ, but we should uphold that to the pinochle of comparison when it comes to the people that have hurt us. Keep up the awesome work, keep growing and doing what you are doing.

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